Like some of the other commenters, I believe the square brackets in the code snippet you've posted already all have the same size. I would actually suggest that you make the round parentheses smaller -- more precisely, to leave them at their default size. This will allow for some more natural grouping of the "fences," from the inner parentheses to the outer brackets.
I'd also recommend that you make a few more changes, such as (i) aligning the two RHS expressions vertically and (ii) reducing the whitespace between \bar{\nabla} and the subscript terms:

\documentclass{article}
\usepackage{amsmath}
\begin{document}
\begin{equation}
\begin{split}
R^{\mu}_{\nu\rho\sigma}
&= \phantom{-}\, % force extra bit of whitespace after equal sign
\partial_{\rho}\bigl[ \bar{\Gamma}^{\mu}_{\nu\sigma}
+ \tfrac{1}{2}\,\bar{g}^{\mu\beta}
(\bar{\nabla}_{\!\nu}h_{\sigma\beta}
+\bar{\nabla}_{\!\sigma}h_{\nu\beta}
+\bar{\nabla}_{\!\beta}h_{\nu\sigma} )\bigr] \\
&\phantom{{}=}
-\partial_{\sigma}\bigl[ \bar{\Gamma}^{\mu}_{\nu\rho}
+ \tfrac{1}{2}\,\bar{g}^{\mu\alpha}
(\bar{\nabla}_{\!\nu}h_{\rho\alpha}
+\bar{\nabla}_{\!\rho}h_{\nu\alpha}
+\bar{\nabla}_{\!\alpha}h_{\nu\rho} )\bigr]
\end{split}
\end{equation}
\end{document}
Addendum: Following @egreg's suggestion, here's an alternative form of displaying the same equation, one which deliberately doesn't attempt to perform a vertical alignment of the two RHS parts:

\documentclass{article}
\usepackage{amsmath}
\begin{document}
\begin{equation}
\begin{split}
R^{\mu}_{\nu\rho\sigma}
&= \partial_{\rho}\bigl[\bar{\Gamma}^{\mu}_{\nu\sigma}
+ \tfrac{1}{2}\,\bar{g}^{\mu\beta}
(\bar{\nabla}_{\!\nu}h_{\sigma\beta}
+\bar{\nabla}_{\!\sigma}h_{\nu\beta}
+\bar{\nabla}_{\!\beta}h_{\nu\sigma} )\bigr] \\
&\qquad{} -\partial_{\sigma}\bigl[\bar{\Gamma}^{\mu}_{\nu\rho}
+ \tfrac{1}{2}\,\bar{g}^{\mu\alpha}
(\bar{\nabla}_{\!\nu}h_{\rho\alpha}
+\bar{\nabla}_{\!\rho}h_{\nu\alpha}
+\bar{\nabla}_{\!\alpha}h_{\nu\rho} )\bigr]
\end{split}
\end{equation}
\end{document}
\bigl/\bigr,\Bigl/\Bigr,\biggl/\biggror\Biggl/\Biggr. Instead of\left/\right. They don't need to be paired, like the latter ones. – Manuel Jan 30 at 21:16\left[\right]are much bigger (to accommodate the $\beta$) than the second set on the line below. – User 17670 Jan 31 at 10:12