I always like to use the enumitem package for anything list-related; perhaps it is overkill in this case, but here's one way that it can be done.
\setlist[enumerate,1]{label=(\arabic*)}
\setlist[enumerate,2]{label=(\arabic{enumi}{,}\arabic*)}
The 1 is for 'first-level', and the 2 is for 'second-level'.

MWE
\documentclass{article}
\usepackage{enumitem}
\setlist[enumerate,1]{label=(\arabic*)}
\setlist[enumerate,2]{label=(\arabic{enumi}{,}\arabic*)}
\begin{document}
\begin{enumerate}
\item First level-one item
\begin{enumerate}
\item First level-two item
\item Second level-two item
\end{enumerate}
\item Second level-one item
\begin{enumerate}
\item Still another level-two item
\end{enumerate}
\end{enumerate}
\end{document}
\item[(i,j)]help? – Hendrik Vogt Feb 23 at 15:13\item[(1,2)] ...,\item[(1,1)] ...,\item[(5,4)] ...help? Just "tell" the\itemwhat numbering you want. – Hendrik Vogt Feb 23 at 15:24