Angle brackets with commath and Asana Math too large (or small)

Question

I want to set bra-ket equations in my document, which uses Asana Math (with lualatex, fontspec and unicode-math). commath is also a requirement for certain stuff. However, in this specific combination, angle brackets are not properly scaled with some modifiers like \big etc.

Consider this MWE

%!TEX program = lualatex

\documentclass{article}

\usepackage{amsmath}
% math typesetting (differentials etc.)
\usepackage{commath}

\usepackage{fontspec}
\usepackage[bold-style=ISO]{unicode-math}
\setmathfont{Asana Math}

\begin{document}
  \begin{equation}
    \bigl\langle x \big\vert H \big\vert y \bigr\rangle
  \end{equation}
\end{document}

which produces this result

The angle brackets are much too large compared to the equally set \vert. Furthermore, going through all sizes from \big to \Bigg produces some matching and some non-matching variants.

What works to avoid the problem:

• using other brackets
• deactivating commath
• switching from Asana Math to default math font

Unfortunately, neither is an option for me. \big is the smallest modifier and already too large. Skipping it produces too small angle brackets.

Is there any (decent) way, to get angle brackets between normal size and \big size with my package requirements?

Answer 1

When commath.sty is loaded \bigl produces a much bigger size than when it's not loaded. Doing \tracingall and comparing differences essentially just shows

< \hbox(8.35597+2.93596)x4.22 []}
---
> \hbox(12.92+7.5)x4.55 []}

which accounts for the different heights, but not for the cause.

Since commath is very buggy, I suggest you not to load it; see commath and \ifinner

If you just need its \dif command, define it in the right way and forget about the package, which defines it in a very wrong way, that can be seen by trying \dif(x+y):

\newcommand{\dif}{\mathop{}\!\mathrm{d}}

(I'd prefer an italic ‘d’, but it's an opinion).